Living with Lies

Living with Lies

Seven Dimensions
Updated Apr 16, 2020

After studying the reasons why we lie for many years, Professor Robert Feldman reveals fascinating facts including their spiral effects, their many varieties and how over time, lying becomes easier.

Eve Ash talks to Professor Robert Feldman (University of Massachusetts Amherst) about his research for the book “The Liar in Your Life”. He reveals that we all lie at different times, there are many types of lies ranging from the unconscious to lies of commission, and that people often lie within the first ten minutes of meeting someone. We lie to create an impression, we lie because we are anxious, we make up narratives to fill gaps in our memories. We have a “truth bias” in as much as we don’t want to believe another person might be lying. Lies create spiral effects: “You lie, I lie”. We might be suspicious of liars, but we also tend to forgive them. Lies lead to inauthenticity in relationships. People compartmentalize lies and can live with them for many, many years.

This program is one of the Insights and Strategies Series, featuring psychologist Eve Ash interviewing a range of experts and business leaders who share their experiences and practical strategies for achieving best practice.

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This program is designed to help people learn more about human behavior and why people lie. It also provides an interesting exploration of wrongful convictions, false confessions, misidentification by witnesses and polygraphs.